Couple weeks ago I had a great discussion with my friend about the pain and the real drive to change.
All around us from time to time we can observe that someone whom we know decided to do something unusual. Make a big change, switch in his/her life and move out/start travelling/quit job or anything different.
But have you ever thought of what is really behind that change? What's driving that person?
Everytime someone from my friends decides to pluck up the courage and do somethin different I wonder why and try to extract that from that person.
"We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing."What is often a common fact is that these people are fed up with they job or relationship. Then comes the personal level of pain tolerance as I call it. That level can differ from one person to another. Once you reach that level there comes the power and momentum to change.
We don't change because of fear or will. Behind every fear and willingness there is a pain on some level of our personality.
So honestly, in my opinion, with a great pain comes a great change. The upside to this is also that change makes people stronger, expands the horizons and can be turned into wisdom.
Is it possible to change without the pain? Well, I would say yes and no. Yes, because we could be so motivated that nothing is going to stop us and our action. No however, because I believe that very deep inside, somewhere in our subconsciousness there is that pain which led to our action - we could just not see it or didn't bother to recognize it.
So if you feel that you are not ready to change, then you are not in enough pain ;)
Peace & Plants,
Tom
